Most married couples develop a shared understanding of who
does what in their relationship. It is a sometimes unspoken recognition of an
inevitable division of labor and responsibilities. I came to the conclusion
that the “perfect and most accurate” plan for marriage is an equal sharing of
chores and other duties. Family is not just an institution of many people
living together under one roof; but the union of similar minded or mutually
loving people bound with certain duties and responsibilities. God deliberately
designed the gender role structure and later the initial social setups to help
the people accept and realize the specific duties each gender bound to. The
divine role of the mother is dedicating enough time for the kids, plus the
entire process of childcare and development. The father has to provide with
temporal and spiritual essential “supplies.” But modern lifestyle makes both
the parents busy working for the family and earning the amount to meet the
demands of life. Kids many a times are left with caretakers or paid nannies.
Such lifestyles affect the families badly as children may grow unaffectionate
to the parents. It is quite difficult for any parent to balance between the
modern lifestyle and parenting or homemaker tasks. Kids need to be trained to
cop up with the family roles. This will help them to be more understanding and
affectionate to parents.
Living peacefully in a family isn’t always easy, but in
God’s restored Church, marriage and families is the most important social unit
now and in eternity. The effort we put into strengthening our families is the
hardest and most significant work any of us will do on earth. No matter how
hard we try, our marriage and home won’t be perfect. But if we build them
around Christ’s principles including faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness,
respect, love, compassion, work and wholesome fun, home can be a place of
refuge, peace and immense joy.