The Family

Most married couples develop a shared understanding of who does what in their relationship. It is a sometimes unspoken recognition of an inevitable division of labor and responsibilities. I came to the conclusion that the “perfect and most accurate” plan for marriage is an equal sharing of chores and other duties.  Family is not just an institution of many people living together under one roof; but the union of similar minded or mutually loving people bound with certain duties and responsibilities. God deliberately designed the gender role structure and later the initial social setups to help the people accept and realize the specific duties each gender bound to. The divine role of the mother is dedicating enough time for the kids, plus the entire process of childcare and development. The father has to provide with temporal and spiritual essential “supplies.” But modern lifestyle makes both the parents busy working for the family and earning the amount to meet the demands of life. Kids many a times are left with caretakers or paid nannies. Such lifestyles affect the families badly as children may grow unaffectionate to the parents. It is quite difficult for any parent to balance between the modern lifestyle and parenting or homemaker tasks. Kids need to be trained to cop up with the family roles. This will help them to be more understanding and affectionate to parents.

Living peacefully in a family isn’t always easy, but in God’s restored Church, marriage and families is the most important social unit now and in eternity. The effort we put into strengthening our families is the hardest and most significant work any of us will do on earth. No matter how hard we try, our marriage and home won’t be perfect. But if we build them around Christ’s principles including faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work and wholesome fun, home can be a place of refuge, peace and immense joy.

 

Saving a Marriage
Some coupes have not done enough honest self-examination to find out why they want to divorce in the first place. I personally think that I would never want to take on something as monumental as a divorce unless I am going to change and grow from it. So it is encouraged to asks to themselves: "How did I get myself into this situation? Why did I pick this person to marry? What did I do to create terrible communication or anger or deadness?" Until they're willing to look at that, they'll just end one situation and pick up right where they left off in the next. Most marriages aren't black-and-white. Almost always, when things deteriorate, both people have contributed mightily to the demise.
For me, the best way a marriage could be save is through the remembrance of the love they had to each other. Loving is appreciating. Loving is enjoying. Loving is gratitude. Love is sharing personal thoughts. Love is admitting mistakes. Loving also involves giving out dollops of positive energy in every way by helping with housework, by hugging each other, by offering and receiving sexual attention, and by radiating positivity, playfulness and affection toward each other. The more loving energy spouses radiate, the more that others, will want to be around you. 

Good Parenting

In “The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Church leaders declared, “Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live.”

Good parenting, while very challenging at times, offers great potential for happiness. Parents can experience great joy by building a strong, loving home environment and teaching gospel principles, which can help their children lead righteous, happy, and productive lives.

Why is one family strong, yet another family weak? The problems are infinitely complex. Yet, there are answers. Abundant evidence shows that the presence of a firm, loving father in the home is far more likely to produce responsible, law-abiding children than if the father is not there, or if he does not function as a father at home. In either case it throws a double burden on the mother.

Ways to enrich family life:

v Hold family prayer night and morning

v Study the scriptures.

v Teach children to work.

v Place a high priority on loyalty to each other.

v Teach principles of self-worth and self-reliance.

v Develop family traditions.

v Do everything in the spirit of love.

Some parents have difficulty expressing their love physically or vocally. However, they all have their own way of expressing their love. We as their children should be able to accept any kind of love they share with us and be as loving as they are with us and even more.